What is true love?
Human behavior dictates our simple day to day things: When someone hurts you, you get angry with them. When you meet someone, you judge them by their clothes, their financial outlook, the way their teeth are coloured and aligned. Or whether his body has any form of disability or not. This is human behavior, because these traits are ingrained within us.
True love is the kind of love and affection you have for someone that isn’t bound by the laws of human behavior. When you experience true love with someone, your primal instincts and behavior change only towards this person. True love transcends typical human behavior. It makes you a better human being towards a special someone.
And the story of Christine and Abel is true love.
One day, Christine was out chilling with friends and one of her friends asked if it would be okay if a friend joined them, which they were cool with. The friend’s friend turned to be a nice dude called Abel. Christine didn’t think much about it when Abel asked for her number – this was just another new friend. You see, in her world, love is an alien thing and all she had with the able-bodied was friendship. Sometimes pity and many times guys regarded her as someone you just can’t go out with.
This time, she was wrong…
After three days, he called me and we talked about different things. Later we met and had coffee and then he said it! My heart was pumping and palpitating to the point that I was scared he would notice. It came to me as a shocker. I did not know what to say first. I asked him to give me time to pray about it as we continued with casual friendship, within no time I knew he was the rib of my rib, the peace I had was enough indication he was the man.
So, they kept talking and learning about each other. He was a good man, cared about her and treated her like a princess. Christine actually looks like a princess so Abel was playing his duty.
He made me feel safe and alive! I was in love. When he next asked me to marry him, I readily accepted though within me, I had reservations about what his family would think of me with my condition.
You see, most families want their children to end up with the perfect spouse. If someone “less perfect”, or “disabled” they crudely call persons living with disability, tries to get into their family, human behaviour sets in. In this case, Christine had this panic in her stomach. What if they rejected her? What if they said she was taking advantage of their soft-spoken son? Would he fight for their love? Or…
It was a bit difficult for me but alas! I was wrong. When he introduced me to them, they took me. They accepted the choice of their son. In fact, they are the ones that have been pushing our wedding agenda!
Christine is lucky. Not many other people are as lucky. No, Christine is blessed, and Abel is more blessed to have such an angel. Physical disability shouldn’t be a barrier. You fall in love with the soul of a person not their physical appearance. Even though physical abilities play a big role but if you’re deeply in love with someone’s soul – poor English, height, physical challenge, financial status and the rest do not matter.
So many young people meet walls along the paths of their love because people view them as unable to be. And this is very wrong. Physical disability shouldn’t be a barrier. You fall in love with the soul of a person, not their physical appearance. Even though physical abilities play some role, if you’re deeply in love with someone’s soul – poor English (hata kama anasrub), height, physical challenge, financial status and the rest do not matter.
Today, it is a happy story… and I baptize them CHRISTABEL!
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